What TV Shows Children Watch Affects Kids Behavior

Across cultures, parents try to regulate the number of hours their children watch Television. According to a new Study, in addition to the number of hours, what kids watch on TV is equally important. An area, most parents tend to over look.

The study says that: the content of TV Shows Can Affect Kids Behavior. Watch the Study Researcher speak on the study findings:



Thoughts:

Although in the video above, the Researcher advises the parents not to allow the kids to watch violent shows and most of the parents do try to keep their kids away from violent and explicit television shows. It's important to understand that the Kids these days are not just watching violent cartoons or programmes; they are also watching overtly romantic Disney cartoons and movies. That apart, the kids are also watching (passively watching) Adult shows, with their parents. Such Shows are another influence, Kids should be kept away till a certain age.

As a rule of thumb: While are the Kids are around, the Parents should watch only those shows which are fit for the Kids (as per their age). Parents can watch the shows of their liking (which are usually meant for adults); once the Kids go to bed.

Parenting demands Sacrifices.

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Bad Parenting , For Parents , Parental care

What TV Shows Children Watch Affects Kids Behavior

Anil Singh Monday, February 18, 2013

Introverts Are a Powerful Lot, claims Susan Cain

Introverts, who don’t express their feelings to outside world OR who just don't talk unless they have something to say, are seen in most cultures, as a different specie. This perception is fueled majorly by the lack of understanding on “Who is an introvert?”; and partly by ‘What any society sees as constituting to Smartness’. If a society like America, sees crisp talking, articulate individual as smart; then introverts, who lie on the other pole of the benchmark are seen as ‘non-smart OR Dull’.

Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety, and while an introvert may also be shy, introversion itself is not shyness. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

But, no matter how different societies see their introverts; intorverts also have their share of extraordinary people. This is the message, Susan Cain, who is on a mission to speak for introverts -- those who would rather not take the spotlight themselves – wants the world to believe.

In the video below, Susan, who lived in US, where telephones, Answering Machines, Door security computers and other things which introverts don’t really like; are a part of life since eternity; talks about her personal experiences being an introvert and makes her case for the world:



About Susan Cain:

Susan Cain is a former corporate lawyer and negotiations consultant -- and a self-described introvert. At least one-third of the people we know are introverts, notes Cain in her new book Quiet. Although our culture undervalues them dramatically, introverts have made some of the great contributions to society – from Chopin's nocturnes to the invention of the personal computer to Gandhi’s transformative leadership. Cain argues that we design our schools, workplaces, and religious institutions for extroverts, and that this bias creates a waste of talent, energy, and happiness. Based on intensive research in psychology and neurobiology and on prolific interviews, she also explains why introverts are capable of great love and great achievement, not in spite of their temperaments -- but because of them.

To Parents:

This may not settle well, with many parents; but from my personal observation, I can say that 'Being an Introvert' is as fascinating as any other personality trait. And hence, it is not right to push a child to become extrovert, if he/she is not. Just a discreet analysis of the behaviour of an introvert person; can answer, why "Not every person inhabiting this planet can be an extrovert".

I have seen kids, who speak only when it's absolutely necessary. Any activity they are engaged in, whether it be playing an outdoor or indoor game, studying or even watching television; they appear to be analyzing their actions non-verbally and those taking place outside. This makes them derive inferences (which can used elsewhere for improvement), utilizing the same time, extrovert kids are trying to please others to accomplish goals like team building, garnering goodwill and establishing leadership.

As can be seen, both the personality types are equally important for any society. Society have real jobs to acknowledge both.

If parents see their kid introvert, rather than discouraging him/her, try to see how they can help the kid take better advantage of their introvert trait. A food for thought will help such parents:

Introverts make up about 60% of the gifted population but only about 25-40% of the general population.


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Introverts Are a Powerful Lot, claims Susan Cain

Anil Singh Monday, March 5, 2012

10 Things you should tell to your Facebook using kid, to save yourself from bad parenting

UPDATE: A 42 year old man was arrested recently for assaulting two minor girls, sisters aged 14 and 11, who he has befriended via Facebook.

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Before enlisting the things you, as a parent, should do to save yourself from the blame of bad parenting, here is a recent incident involving a 14 year old kid in US:

“On Wednesday, a Grandville man, 37-year-old Matthew Bauman, appeared in Wyoming District Court to face charges for online solicitation of sex with young girls. Police say, a 14-year-old girl agreed to meet Bauman in person. Although fortunately, No assault was committed, but police say it's a warning to parents that predators may be on Facebook. The judge sent Bauman back to jail at a higher bail."

As said by the police: it's a warning to parents that predators may be on Facebook.

So make sure you play the role of an ideal parent, when it comes to your Facebook using Kid.

Below are Things you should tell/convey to your Facebook using kid, to save yourself from the blame of bad parenting:

1) Don’t allow your kid to join Facebook, or for that matter, any social network, if he/she is under 13. It is often being seen that parents hail their kid, of his/her smartness, if he manages to open a Facebook account by quoting an age more than his/her real age. Don’t encourage such a behavior. Tell him/her, no Facebook before he/she attains the age the social network has put in its criterion.

2) If your kid has joined school late for whatever reasons, then rather than his/her chronological age (real age), use his/her school age to decide whether he/she fulfills the Facebook’s age criterion.

3) If the kid can join a social network, tell the kid, the presence of dubious people on facebook, who are all out to deceive people in any way possible. Tell the kid that if he/she is not vigilant enough, they can be duped of money, and harmed in other ways.

4) Tell him/her not to befriend any stranger, even if he/she appears to be of the kid’s age. Begin with capping the kid’s social contacts with just his/her school classmates, someone you are aware of too.

5) Once sufficient trust is maintained between you and your kid regarding Facebook usage; allow him/her to broaden his/her network, among kids of same age. No matter Stranger.

6) But make a policy that, the kid will not interact with the person, friended online, in person. If some friend makes a desire to meet in person; as a definite policy the kid will inform you first. And if the kid is hell bent to meet the person, you will accompany the kid, at a proper public place.

7) Make it a policy, that the kid will block any friend in their friends list, who speaks lewd, bullies others or has a behavior non-conforming to his/her age.

8) Make it a policy for your kid, that he/she will not speak lewd, post questionable pictures of self or some friend, and most important – will not Bully anyone. If you get to know, about some derailing in your kid's own behavior, don't confront him/her first time. Try to masquerade your talk to convey the behavior expected. In case of a second breach, be more direct.

9) Supervise your kid’s online excursions and tell him/her that in case of any difficulty arising out of some dubious behavior, bullying or other situation; you are by his/her side. And in this case you are the most person, who should be the first to be trusted.

10) Although this is not quite recommended, as spying on kid’s online behavior, can lead to trust deficit between the parents and the kid. Still if you are working, and don’t have the time to supervise your kid’s online activities; then you can use some good parental control software, Like this one; that lets you know, your kid's entire web activity, without him/her knowing it. But try to use it with utmost responsibility. ---------

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10 Things you should tell to your Facebook using kid, to save yourself from bad parenting

Anil Singh Thursday, April 14, 2011